There is definitely a great temptation to look at an ex's social media whereabouts. Except the few lucky/delusional people whose first love has constantly been with them throughout life, we all have tried to keep a tab on our ex’s account after breakup. They are, after all, someone we once cared about and have often had a big impact on our lives. After Facebook and Twitter, the most popular online stalking platform is Instagram. If you are one of those people who constantly keep opening their ex’s Instagram account and can't seem to stop it despite how upset it makes you, then keep reading this oneHOWTO article to find out how to stop looking at your ex’s Instagram.
The most obvious step in this situation is to unfollow them. If you haven't done this already, do it now. If you unfollow your ex, it won't necessarily mean out of sight out of mind, but it will stop you from making yourself worried by imagining what they get up to when you see them with an attractive friend or even just find their seeming happiness difficult to take.
Stop Visiting Their Page
Again an obvious suggestion: stop visiting their page. Even if you have unfollowed them, you might find it tempting to type their name into the search bar. After breakup it is natural to have too many queries about your ex. Are they happy or not? Are they dating someone? What does this mean about me as a person? Obsessing over such questions can make you want to visit your ex’s page again and again, so you'll need to stop obsessing.
Sometimes you might keep saying in your mind that I will visit and just look at their recent images and close the page. After saying this you happily open up your ex’s instagram account and start scrolling through the images. Once you start scrolling, it can be hard top stop. Even the negative feelings this elicits can be addictive, so try to think of more positive activities you can be doing which encourage good self-esteem rather than deplete it.
Ask Your Ex to Make Their Page Private
Not all breakups are left on a bad note. Yet we can still obsess over our ex’s activity on Instagram. If you had a clean breakup then call your ex and ask them to make their account private for some time until you are both ready to move on, even if they have done this already. Your ex will most probably appreciate your effort and make their page private.
Remind Yourself of Why You Broke Up in the First Place
A day or two after breakup our heart starts to crave for the presence of our ex. But since you know that it is impossible for them to be with you after a breakup, his is when you might start to stalk his Instagram page. To avoid this, keep reminding yourself why you broke up. Start remembering those moments when he had hurt you. Keep thinking about those reasons until your mind changes. Think why are they posting these images. Unfortunately pettiness can be a common partner with a break up, so make sure they aren't posting controversial pictures just to make them unhappy. If getting back together isn't a good idea, and you're sure of it, then stalking them on Instagram won't be either.
Pick Up a Hobby
The best way to get over someone, whether IRL or online is to move on with your life in a practical way. Involve yourself in more productive work and practice behavior which will build you up, rather than tear you down like what happens when you stalk someone on Instagram. Picking up a hobby like sport or a new instrument can really help. Yoga is a great way to help your body regain balance after the sadness of a breakup while helping your mind to be put at ease also. Spending time with friends who love us and support us will also help to make the pain seem less.
If all else fails, drastic action might need to be taken. If you can't trust yourself not to look at your ex's Instagram then ask your best friend to change your password so that you can't go on to it for a while, then you can talk to them when you think you're strong enough to go back on.
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